Love and Logic Solution:
Guiding Children to Solve Their Own Problems
| Love and Logic Step One: | Empathy. |
| “How sad.” | |
| “I bet that hurts.” | |
| Love and Logic Step Two: | Send the “Power Message.” |
| “What do you think you’re going to do?” | |
| Love and Logic Step Three: | Offer choices. |
| “Would you like to hear what other kids have tried?” | |
| At this point, offer a variety of choices that range from bad to good. It’s usually best to start out with the poor choices. | |
| Each time a choice is offered, go on to step four, forcing the youngster to state the consequence in his/her own words. This means that you will be going back and forth between Love and Logic steps three and four. | |
| Love and Logic Step Four: | Have the child state the consequences. |
| “And how will that work?” | |
| Love and Logic Step Five: | Give permission for the child to either solve the problem or not solve the problem. |
| “Good luck. I hope it works out.” | |
| Have no fear. If the child is fortunate enough to make a poor choice, he/she may have a double learning lesson. |
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